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My career got a bit scarred because of my divorce. That scar will remain permanently with me. I will take it into my grave. I mean, I won't be buried, because I'm a Hindu, although, I would've preferred that, because I've studied in a convent school, and I love zombies [bites tongue], but on a serious note - I won't want even my enemy's career to be scarred because of me, because in life, Love, Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Sex are not that important. Only one thing is important. I'm not saying that that's the most important thing, but it is definitely a very important thing, and that is your Bank Balance [sniggers].
And where does that Bank Balance accrue from? Not by studying the Law of Attraction, listening to podcasts, planting money plants, meditating, or doing some magic. It comes through your career. So, I won't want even my enemy's career being scarred because of me.
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I sometimes feel envious on seeing these young influencers, and I seethe thinking that they're hardly doing anything - rather they're doing what I enjoy doing a lot, and earning in lakhs. And look at me, I'm continuing to embarrass myself on the Social Media. So, can you imagine the feelings of a 24-year-old struggling in life, having a difficult financial situation, family issues, probably even starving at times, while looking at his 24-year-old peer who is popular, rich, famous, successful, and is earning a lot of money?
I'm not asking you to stop trolling or hating anybody. A Gay Tour Organizer once said to me, "Love and Hate is a choice! You can hate someone if you want to!". I'm not asking you to not comment your feelings on someone's post. But it can have repercussions. There can be retaliation.
Oftentimes, people watch me on YouTube, and come to Grindr to appreciate me. But technology has advanced so much that I don't believe in each and every one of those appreciations. Won't talk much, otherwise people will say that he doesn't know how much to NOT tell. [sniggers] I mean, I definitely believe in those who comment negative stuff, those who troll, or hate me, because I know that those are definitely real human beings.
So, a guy wrote to me with such conniving intentions. He'd already decided to start something. I kept quiet initially, however, he judged me very wrongly. So, I asked him to meet me face-to-face (instead of passively chatting online) if he has b@lls. There was no threat in anything that I wrote, because I know what's right and what's wrong. He got infuriated. Used abusive language my mother. Said 2-3 derogatory things to me. Age-shamed me, and said that I'm using Grindr and Instagram despite being so old. And threatened to harm me two times in writing. Now, even if he would've threatened me over a Voice Message - I'll come to that part very shortly.
So, I said to him that I'd report that chat to the Police Station. He is such a fool. Calls himself an advocate. He said, "Do it!" That is a very wrong thing to do. Whenever someone warns you - and I'll talk about this in the next segment... whenever someone warns you, you should NEVER give them a GREEN Signal thinking that you're immortal. It has been mentioned in Grindr's Community Guidelines as well that violence, or threatening to cause someone harm is illegal. It is obviously illegal. We keep reading stories in the newspapers. If someone reports that chat, everything gets recorded. Even if that threat is through a voice message, on reporting, your Device ID, your associated email address, phone number, your photos - everything that you've uploaded gets recorded and reported. You cannot deny it later. Because he sent me two real photos and two fake photos, that's why he probably said that he knows more than me (because he's an advocate) thinking that he could deny later that it was the real him. But what is wrong is wrong. What is illegal is illegal.
So, it is very important to be respectful and careful even on a platform on Grindr.
Why didn't I complain? Because even I have - in my youth - said and written wrong things to people, which they have not used against me. They could've, but they forgave me. So, I don't want to cause any damage or scar to a young guy's life or career, just because he said something nasty to me in his 2-minute rage. He's young. He needs to learn. He needs to grow. He needs to mature.
I also know that corrupt people (who have bad and cunning intentions) generally don't get angry very easily [sniggers]. It is sincere and honest people who actually get very easily triggered on hearing even a little bad against them.
I've seen many such low lives who hate me, and I've tried to appease them. This is called maturity. Like he also said to me that my life's end is nearing. That also means that I'm that much mature. In this case also I tried to change the conversation, and questioned him about his upbringing. I said, "I'm so sorry that you're chatting with me in this manner", and "I feel very sad that I came across you". I tried to change the topic, but he was in a different mood altogether. But the thing is - why am I making YouTube videos? To share my life's experiences. As an older person, I feel if youngsters can learn from me, and their lives can transform even a little bit, then why not!
Yeah, so I was going to give examples. Won't go too much into details, otherwise the video will get too long. A couple of times in my life, I've made similar mistakes, and received warnings from the opposite party to delete this, delete an email, take back a statement, delete the review, delete the YouTube video, which qualifies for libel. They warned me that they'd take legal actions against me. So, from my side, I've never asked them to GO AHEAD. That is a very smart play. I'll come to that. Now, I was the sincere one. The opposite parties were misbehaved, at times. They were at fault, but I became at fault, when I wrote something wrong, or said something wrong on record. When you are at fault, and then you get a warning, you have no rights to say - in fact, it is a very wrong and stupid thing to do - "DO WHATEVER YOU WANT, because I was correct!"
If you say something like that, then you will have to go through all those procedures and processes. You'll have to deal with all the legalities. If you're ready for that, good for you. But because you'll also get a whiff of spirituality on this channel, it is always a smart play to take a seat back, or to take a step back, and say things like, "I apologize", "I understand", "I get your point", "Okay, I will not do this", or "Okay, I understand what you're trying to say".
That is not only smart, but it is also the right thing to do, even if that means that you lose that particular war. Because life is about understanding. Life is about growing together. Life is about learning from others. And taking yourself to the next level. If you keep fighting, you'll stay there forever.
At the end of the day, you should always remember that your life's frustration is nobody else's problem. In the sense, if my self-esteem is low, people won't come to me saying, "Awww! Your self-esteem is low, so let me pour some extra love in my interaction with you." People will only behave in the way they want. Sadness, Difficulties, Troubles, and Problems are faced by everyone. Specially, if you've reached this channel, then it is for sure that you've seen real sadness. Trolling others, hating others, gaining mileage by spreading misinformation about others is very easy. But please correct me if I'm wrong, I feel that we should uplift each other by helping each other.
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