Confident, accomplished, well-presented people can absolutely intimidate others. However, if someone is genuinely interested, intimidation may slow them - it doesn’t stop them. Interest pushes through intimidation. Low interest hides behind intimidation.

All that you need to know is whether they're motivated enough to approach you or not. There are so many instances when I was approached by guys (despite knowing that I am well-known and well-respected in the Gay Community). They approached me for all sorts of things.

Now, what if you've given someone pretty strong and clear signals (and you are approachable) from your side and he (in case of a same-sex partner-hunt):
• knows you like him,
•  feels safe (not judged) with you,
•  chats comfortably,
•  is in your city,
•  sends you videos,
•  resumes conversation,

... in other words, softly orbits you without initiating a real, physical meeting, it only means one thing: At the moment, he is not motivated for anything further. You need to be smart enough to recognize this and pull back.

You do not need to overinvest in OR over-perform for someone who only enjoys your company, attention, energy, or validation. Leading and initiating a date 2-3 times is fine. For an entire year? Well, you're dumb (better word - too needy / desperate) if you did that!

NEVER lower your Energy for someone else. It will be the complete opposite to what you've been learning on this website (and through my teachings). It is the opposite person's job to rise!

If he doesn't step up, LET HIM GO! If he can't step up because he's younger than you, do you really think he'll do so once he turns your current age (when you'll be those many years ahead of him)? The notion that 'people change after marriage' is a seriously flawed one.


💡 As a Spiritual and Mental Health Life Coach, I want guys to feel like being inspired by me, not wanting to be rescued by me.

Thu, 30-Apr-2026
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