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Part-1
I invited a guy home to meet me casually via a Dating App. You may say, "Sagar, why casually? You're so boring." I agree. I am a very simple and a boring guy in real life [laughs]. But I knew that he was married, which is why my intention to meet him was NOT romantic or sexual. But he was so desperate that within 5 minutes on arriving he took his pants off and was desperate to show me his 🍆 THING... like as-if I don't have that THING, and secondly he thought that by looking at that THING I'd say, "Wow", but I went 🤢 [imitates vomiting], "Urgh! Eew! That Thing is made for someone else. Don't show it to me." 🙃

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My voice will sound sexy today, because of cough, cold, and fever [sniggers]. Some people may ask, "Sagar, what's the problem in meeting with married men? They also have feelings. And love can happen at any point of time in life." If you want a blunt answer from me on this, this is what I have to say: Those who involve with married guys romantically or sexually, or those who involve with others romantically or sexually despite being married have no Principles (or Values) in life!

But see, I don't hate anybody. I'm too busy in my life to spew hatred onto others, and I'm not a 20/25-year-old boy to criticize or cuss about things that I don't like. I'm not talking about legalities here. I'm talking about moralities here. A Married Guy can never have just One Boyfriend. That happens only in Web Series, because they are Scripted. One who cannot stay loyal with his wife has already turned his Promiscuity Switch ON [sniggers]. And there's unlimited variety in this world, isn't it? So, one who cannot stay loyal with his wife can NEVER stay loyal with any one person in this world.

Why you should stay away from such guys is, because I know many married guys who would meet you ONLY WHEN they are in the MOOD (to go out traveling or to go into the bedroom). And when you are in the MOOD, you receive a very rude reply, "busy with family", like as-if they were never part of your life. Means they want a wife as a fallback (mechanism), or to cook, or to support them during their old age, and meanwhile, they also want a Boyfriend for Weekend Fun... that too when they are in the mood.

Generally, you will never hear me calling something as Right or Wrong. You'll hardly hear me saying, "This is Right and That is Wrong", or "Do this and Don't do that!". It is all your choice, isn't it? But cheating on your partner is as big a sin as hitting / killing someone. But I would still say that it is your choice. (i) What kind of life you want to lead, (ii) what kinds of people you want in your life, (iii) whether you want to cheat on your partner, (iv) or you want to help someone in cheating on their partner (and become a SHAREHOLDER of that SIN) - these are all choices, isn't it?

At the end of the day, Loyalty is a Choice, but having Principles, Values, and Dignity also matters.

Part-2
I had made this statement in this Topic's Part-1. Watch it till I get my bottle of water. "Ones who get romantically or sexually involved with married guys OR married guys who get romantically or sexually involved with others have no principles in life." I know how it sounds. 3 people unsubscribed on that video 😥 But I know what I am doing here. And I am okay with that 😊

My Thoughts pertaining to certain areas of life are very clear, and because they're clear, people tend to assume that I am being STRICT or STRONG. Yes, I am Strong, but Strict? Not necessarily. Everybody is, anyway, living his own life. I don't go around knocking the doors of married men telling them what the right way of living is. Every person knows as to whether what he is doing is Right or Wrong, but, sometimes, we need someone to put words to our ideas, which helps in crack-opening new and correct perspectives. Today, the world has become so FAST, NOISY, and BUSY that nobody has the time to sit and think about things, but I am very sure that these talks will definitely reach the ones who are looking for them. But how will that happen? That will happen when you LIKE and SHARE this video.

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As convinced & justified as Jaya Bachchan is about her Anger, and Urfi Javed about her clothes, so are married guys about their infidelity [https://www.differencebetween.com/difference-between-infidelity-and-vs-adultery/]. As important as it is to teach Jaya Bachchan the words Public Figure and Urfi Javed the words Social Responsibility, it is important the teach the word CHARACTER to these married men. MSM disclaimer. You can show your Anger on Instagram REELS. You can show your body (hell, get fully naked) on the Social Media, but imagine that a 5-6 year-old person sees you doing what you're doing, it may sow some unnecessary seeds into that person's Mind.

Just coming up with fancy terms like "Ethical non-monogamy" or "polyamory" does not necessarily justify your acts, or, more importantly, satisfy your soul. Those terms came into the world, because people were doing that even before those terms were invented. But it always comes down to that PROMISCUITY SWITCH that I keep talking about. Someone who isn't satisfied with 2 people cannot stay limited to 2 people.

This is not about "Mumbai's Culture" vs. "Pune's Culture" i.e. it is considered COOL or PROGRESSIVE or (in Gen-Z's words) CHILL in the Financial Capital of the Country. No, it is not CHILL 😕 Values are values, no matter where we go. We are becoming more Western than the Western people themselves. And they (western people) are coming here to study our culture. We need to understand what the meaning of marriage / relationship is. There is a new ideology in the market. Married Guys believe that if they're having sex outside of their marriage with a GIRL, then it's Cheating. If they're doing it with a GUY, then it's NOT Cheating. [surprised tone] Arre... I want to leave this planet! Sarcastically, I had fainted for a few minutes when someone wrote that to me.

These days I don't get angry. I actually feel SAD when I see married guys on Grindr. I can understand that FEELING... of being stuck, and unhappy... because we evolve and grow, isn't it? One is not as evolved at 20 as he is at 32, for example. So, I understand that FEELING, but, then, if you think about it, nobody's life is perfect. Everyone has one issue or another. It's like that "Buy 1 Blessing and Get 1 Curse FREE" kind of offer from life. Choice starts from today. You have to take the first step from your side. It is like wanting to take a break from YouTube for a few hours. YouTube is not going to ask you to do that. You have to decide and do it, and then come back refreshed, isn't it? Time Off and Introspection (and Retrospection) immensely helps.

There are Single guys on Grindr who don't consider it to be inappropriate or unethical to sleep with married guys. In fact, someone said to me that he likes sleeping with HOT married guys. They say, "I am Single. It is his (the married guy's) choice to cheat on his wife." Most of these Single guys simply don't consider it to be wrong, but we need to remember that with each instance that this married guy is cheating on his wife, he is losing his COMMITMENT AND INTEGRITY towards his Relationship, and you are helping him with that. That is how you become the SHAREHOLDER of the SIN. Besides... remember, tomorrow when he grows old or falls ill, he has his wife. What about you? This married guy won't come to your rescue... I can write it and give it to you.

Impregnating the wife, sending her home, and then opening Grindr.

A 54-year-old married man who has a boyfriend whom he treats like a son.

OK with physical infidelity (open relationship) as long as there is no emotional infidelity. That's how difficult relationships have become.

A REEL in which she says that her husband is so loyal that he watches porn that doesn't have a female in it.

We are spoilt for choices. When we saw just a few hot men around once in a week vs. seeing plenty of hot men around every minute of every day.

When we really want to do something, and we don't have avenues to do it, we keep quiet about it, isn't it? Google Reviews, for example. When someone behaved rudely with us in the past, we used to come back home and just discuss it and forget about it. Now, it feels like it's our job to come back home (sometimes we can't even wait till we reach home) and write nasty feedbacks on Google Reviews about that person / place. Because now we have the avenue. But there is a CHOICE right there, isn't it? Similarly, when a married guy gets curious about same-sex relationships OR when someone has already been attracted to this, on finding opportunities, he has that CHOICE. Now, what you CHOOSE defines your IDENTITY or your CHARACTER. You become that. And (like there's a dialog in The Walking Dead) once you do it, you become it. Then there's no going back. But I think you can always go back and make a FRESH START and give new meaning to your life. A meaning that has some GOOD CHARACTER.

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