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Recently, it has been found in studies that male G-spot also exists, but that is the point - whether you want someone to satisfy your G-spot, or want someone to take your life to the next level.

People want new partners every week. They are more interested in fun, alcohol, house parties, and parties, but they have no time, money, and interest in building relationships. To do the rest of the ridiculous things, they have ample amount of time, money, etc.

If you want 'him' to be a Top, Vers, Bottom, or Gym-toned, then the statement that 'Same-sex marriage will cause havoc'...

Our population is already very less. Our choices are already very limited. We will 'have to' adjust with one another. You may not get someone with six-pack abs or lots of hair on the head.

Again, Unconditional Happiness does not mean that I don't want anything. Then why are you here, in this world? Go, fly, keep flying. Go to the Supreme Abode.

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Based on what I said at the end of my Short YouTube video on Grindr SCAM, someone instantly replied, saying, "because you're a Bottom". First of all, that is not true. And secondly, that is not important. That is irrelevant. I am talking about relationships here, not sex. When you talk about Top, Bott, Vers, it means that you're looking for sex, and not a relationship. If, while looking for a relationship, your criteria are that you want a Top, or a Gym-toned Muscular, or Hairy guy, or a guy with a specific size, then first that relationship of yours will neither establish, and even if it does, it will not last for a very long time. Because your Foundation or your Base Criteria itself are screwed up.

Here, I make videos only for Gay Males. We have to remember that our primary (sexual) pleasure point is in the front, and not at the back. Now, it has been found in studies that male G-spot also exists, but that is the point - whether you want someone to satisfy your G-spot, or want someone to take your life to the next level. That is a choice, and that choice shows what you're looking for in your life.

If I ask you to make the list of criteria for a Life Partner... what will your criteria generally be? That he should be mature. That he should have a job. That he should be financially a bit independent. I am very sad about the fact that same-sex marriage is not yet legal in our country, but that is also a very valid point, isn't it? There is real data that will help you know that people are more interested in parties et. al.

And is age important for that? Can you say that they're just having fun or enjoying because they're 19-20-year-old youngsters? No. It's about mentality, isn't it? Even if it may not be legal, I can still look for someone for myself. At least a relationship. At least a partner. Priorities are different. However, we're already a minority. Within that too, if 90% people are attracted towards fun, then how will we be able to move forward or do something for this country as a community, as well, isn't it? Only a few mad people like me are trying to looking for a partner since 2012. In the sense, my mother keeps saying that I don't have a partner despite the fact that I keep yelling GAY GAY GAY online. She asks why I am unable to find one, and wonders whether the problem is within me. Then I think that, yes, there may certainly be problem within me if I am STILL unable to manifest or magnetize someone into my life. However, I also know that the problem is not just within me. The problem also exists in this Gay World's mentality, thinking, criteria, focus, and priorities too.

One of the most important things that you should keep in mind is that if separation happens between a couple, there is only one reason behind it. That you cannot keep each other happy. At the end of the day, we want to be happy, isn't it? Now, we want to be happy, but we want that person as well. That is also important, right? Again, Unconditional Happiness does not mean that I don't want anything. Then why are you here, in this world? Go, fly, keep flying. Go to the Supreme Abode. But if we are here, we want to have these physical experiences. But if that separation happens, then that happiness can no longer be experienced in that relationship.

One wants a partner. One wants a lover. One wants everything. However, only if you are happy alone, only if you are fine, healthy, wealthy, alone, then will you be able to do something for the opposite person as well, isn't it? If you are weak, incapable, or unwell, or if you don't have money to go on a dinner or a honeymoon, then you won't be able to experience satisfaction in the relationship. See, again, it is not about material things. You are with someone, and now, you want to enjoy this world with that person. If not far, if you want to at least go nearby and enjoy, then do you have at least those basic resources? And whether you have all those resources or not, whether you have enthusiasm or not, whether you're passionate or not matters. In other words, you can go in a bus, instead of hiring a (an expensive) car. That is fine, however, whether you are enthusiastic and passionate, whether you have that fulfilment and love that you can give to another.

What you can do for the other, matters. Now, whether you should do or not is another story. Is it your job to do everything for the other person? Not at all. But that is what passion is. That is what a relationship is. That I want to do things for you

See, I'm not forcing anyone to come out of the closet, and 'grapes are not sour', in the sense, if I'm this old and if I show interest in a guy who's half my age, and, obviously, if he rejects me saying that he's 'greyromantic', in the sense [sniggers], he's very rarely attracted towards somebody, then it's okay. I understand that I should LET him explore and not pressurize him. I should let him do whatever he wants, because I'm older, and if he's young, and if he can meet a number of people and find someone more suitable for himself, then nothing would make me happier than that. But the point here is to not get consumed or sucked into those terminologies so much that you don't come out of those boxes. Even the criteria that people have.

The thing that I keep saying about coming out of the closet - I'm not asking anyone to come out immediately. But people are not even thinking about it - that is a problem. People are not even thinking about having a life partner. That is a problem. When will you think? Straight (heterosexual) marriages that, earlier, used to happen around the ages of 21 and 22, we've seen that generally, the trend, now, is to get married around the age of 30. However, those rules are not applicable to Gay people, because our population is already very less. Our choices are already very limited. We will 'have to' adjust with one another. You may not get someone with six-pack abs or lots of hair on the head. I am not promoting, advertising, or marketing myself here, but [sniggers] giving the right priorities to the right criteria is also important. Think about your genuine criteria and think about your unimportant criteria. Exploring and experimenting is different. Having priorities and preferences is also very important. For example, you may want someone young or with good hair on his head. That is fine. But having an understanding about what is important and what is not important is also important. That is only how we will be able to move ahead in life. Otherwise, you'll end up growing old and sit making YouTube videos like this.

It is very hard for me to explain why I am Single. Then, I ask youngsters why they are Single, despite being young, because people in their age group are too many - in this world as well as in this Gay World. So, I tell them that they should (actually) not be Single. It is okay if I am Single. It is not okay, but that is how it is. But here is the reason why I am still Single.

I belong to the older generation. I belong to that generation in which I had all heterosexual office colleagues who were Single. We used to roam around a lot, go on treks and enjoy a lot - as Straight Friends. As Straight People. Back then, the 'concept' of 'Being Gay' was not even known (which makes one feel that) and Gay People hardly existed when I was in my 20s. We used to see hardly a few 'feminine' guys and consider him to be different. The word 'Gay' was also not known as such. As I turned 30, gradually, everyone got married, while I got divorced. I was going through a lot of problems - financially, and definitely emotionally. It had a huge impact at home. So, while this was happening in my life, everyone around me was getting married, and getting busy in their married lives. So, I naturally got left alone. And thereafter, especially it is very difficult to keep in touch with colleagues while your (or their) companies keep changing. And my life's course and direction completely changed, and that is how I became pretty much an Odd Man Out. Even today when I go to young groups or meetings, or attend Queer Events, I definitely feel left out, because all of them are in their early 20s. A very few people are in their late 20s. There are hardly 2-3 people around my age, again, whose lives are different, who are not out of the closet, or whose preferences are completely different.

So, whom should I blame? Life? This Gay World? Destiny? Myself? Or my Parents? Whom should I blame?

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