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My Message to Young Gay Boys & Men
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When the blood running through your veins is young and warm i.e. when you're 15-20 and your parents are 35-40, you tend to feel, "I don't need anybody." I never had that 'ghamand', but I see many of these youngsters behaving like as-if they know everything. Try to teach them something, and they start giving you 'gyaan'.
But when you become 40 (not even 35, but 40), that 'ghamand' begins to crush down. Because your parents are, now, in their 60s. You are probably Single (and Lonely) and Gay, and unable to find a Partner. Basically, situations vary from person to person, however, when you are reponsible for bringing food, grocery or vegetables into your house, that's when you REALIZE a lot of things about life. Let me repeat - I never had that 'ghamand' in my 20s, and buying vegetables has always been one of my most favorite activities, ever. Offline, not online 😊
1. Stop craving for love.
May I say something that you won't really like? [sniggers] LOVE IS ALL AROUND YOU. Stop looking for it in one person. STOP WAITING for that one 'Hero' of your life. Yeah, if you're reading this, you're someone who wants a 'Hero' and not a 'Heroine'. I'm not talking about those who merely have sexual / lustful same-sex attraction, but about those (we all, in fact) who want a good-looking, masculine, young male who would tick our boxes. The truth is - NOBODY CAN TICK ALL YOUR BOXES. There's hardly anybody who can tick even 4 out of 10 boxes. So, it is good to NOT have such expectations (or boxes).
As far as looking for love is concerned, remember that it is not anybody else's job to fill your void of love. You have to be a loving person towards everybody. For example, you cannot squall
at your mother or at that watchman daily and expect a lover to ride on a horse into your life. You have to be The Lover. As they say, Charity begins at Home. As Gandhiji said, 'Be the change'.
Basically, Love, Views, Likes, and Money - the more you hanker after them, the more they run away from you.
2. Stop embarrassing yourself.
xxx by falling in love with wrong men (e.g. straight / gay). I have embarrassed myself so many times with straight and gay men's rejections.
3. Build your life.
xxx multiple points within this - save money (wish someone told me this one line). house.
4. Bad Habits:
I know that usually people (especially people from today's young generation) don't like someone discouraging them from doing certain things. They say, "Jaise aap right ho, hum bhi right hain..." However, if I don't say certain things, this Channel would not exist at all. As far as Bad Habits are concerned, I would like to mention that I've never smoked, never drunk, never watched porn (oh! Sorry. Never say "never" in case of porn! 😂 But porn doesn't really turn me ON! 😂 ), and never consumed any kind of addictive substances that are harmful for the body. Sugar may be an exception, but this is not a Health video.
It is always good to keep such bad habits at bay. It is sad that these Bollywood Celebrities (whom we ardently followed) never revealed in the 90s how much sugar Soft Drinks have (for example). Yes, it is not their job, but I find that to be deceptive behavior! They never said things against those things, because then those things wouldn't sign them. It's all about money. Anyway, knowledge, Truth, and Unfairness cannot stay buried for very long. "Vishay se bhatak raha hoon main..." 😂
Bad habits destroy you in the long run. Today, the little flab that I'm trying hard to get rid of is the result of the innumerable bottles of Mountain Dew that I had at my workplace for FREE in my 20s. Results of your bad actions, sometimes, take up to 10 to 15 years to show up. The sooner you start taking care, the better it is. Today's generation is so fortunate that they have so much knowledge available, unlike my generation.
Negative Thinking is also a bad habit, isn't it? Result is my loss of hair. I never really took extra care.
I want to mention overuse of Mobile Phones as well. Whether you are a Creator or a Consumer of Entertainment - unless YouTube or Instagram or TikTok are your Source of Living, have a limit. I am saying these things, because people want to hear these things from my mouth. I keep getting messages here and there.
Social Media is leading to hyper-sexualization [read here]. Young age is the age when you feel Insecure, Vulnerable, and Confused, and you tend to CRAVE for love or sex a lot. Social Media makes you CRAVE for more, and keeps you empty, because your focus hardly goes to establishing and building real connections. Make use of the products, but don't be dependent upon them. GO OUT THERE AND MEET REAL PEOPLE. It's like the difference between "buying a condom online, because there's an emergency" vs. "buying a condom online, because you're scared to open your mouth and ask for it to a medical shop owner". That's deep! 😵
5. Importance of Family.
It's about Family or the People around you. I know there are so many Gay guys who do not have parents anymore. I know Gay guys whose familities are hateful towards them. May be that's not your family. Like I always say: 'Soul Connections' are more important than 'Blood Relations'.
6. Being Good to Others.
This is a little more important than Family. What I mean is - apart and beyond your family, there's something that you need to take extra care of, especially in these times.
I've not seen Straight / Homophobic Men talking ill about Gay Men as much as Gay Men talking ill about each other. And I'm not going to use these new-age terms like 'Internal Homophobia'. Don't need to, unnecessarily, use classy terms. It's, basically, JEALOUS and HATRED towards another human being. It's that POISON that is resident within us for years and decades.
That POISON may have been created due to any reason, however, while getting rid of that, it so important to BE GOOD to other human beings. Every human being you come across, always try to see how GOOD you can be. Not OVER-GOOD [sniggers], but AT LEAST GOOD. At least good. People are finding that too very difficult these days.
It's not just about these days. People were badly behaved during my childhood / youth as well, and I used to give it back to them then. May be I could've avoided that and understood them slightly better. I've not been NASTY or CUNNING, ever. However, yes, I will confess that I may have been a bit RUDE to people who were bad with me. That only keeps that POISON within you active. Today, because the population has increased, there is more probability of you coming across badly behaved people. When you do, just try to be CIVIL and POLITE as much as you can. As a youngster one tends to have a lot of Energy to spare, but in such scenarios it is unnecessary to generate negativity.
In the long run you realize (just as I realized at / after 40) that whether I'm Popular or not. Whether I have 1M views on my YouTube Channel or not. Whether my every other REEL goes viral or not. That one satisfaction that I have about myself is that I've never been BAD to anybody. It's a subtle, yet a very BIG thing.
I'm specifically talking about this, because I see popular people being very NASTY and RUDELY behaved with their followers / fans.
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