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PART-1

Hey guys, today, I'm going to share three important reaso...

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Durex had conducted a survey in which it was discovered that - on an average - males are more promiscuous than females. In the sense, females have - on an average - 6 sexual partners, whereas males have 10. Males in general. Now, as far as Gay Males are concerned, I'd mentioned in my 'Faltu' / 'Cheap' video as well that Gay Men have - typically - 19-20 (or roughly 21) sexual partners throughout their lifetimes. However, this data is not too recent.

As far as I know, even within my contacts, and WhatsApp Groups. In fact, one guy had mentioned (about himself), "I am a sl_t.' Now, this is an offensive word, so, I won't be using it. But that it what it means that the ones who are in the hook-up culture, or are promiscuous already have had more than 21 Sexual Partners.

And the movies like these that are made, in which promiscuity is glorified a lot, sex is desensitized, and it is boasted about, which somewhere definitely impacts the society at large. It is not a very good thing, because that only means that you kept wandering for love (or for someone of your own) for a long time in your life, isn't it?

So, go ahead and turn on Disappearing Messages ON on WhatsApp for 7 days. Anyway, these days even love doesn't last for that long. (Some) people want to have Coffee with one person at 5 pm, and Dinner with another person at 8 pm. It had happened with me. Someone had Coffee with me, and was telling me that he had a Dinner Date with another person, and also did things with that person. On a light note - I was like, "What's wrong with me? Why didn't you do anything with me?" [sniggers]. Forget Dating, people want to marry one person, and have sex with another person. So, forget the rest of the world. Forget the Gay Community as a whole. As an individual, what are we doing with our lives, and where are we heading?

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Hmm, Insta-boy. This is a Boy from Instagram. God knows what has happened to the guys on Instagram. They dance to female songs despite being males. Yuck! [laughs]

I'm not asking you to have sex only 4 times in a year. Have it 360 times. What have I got to do with that, isn't it? And you don't have to be under my capricious malevolence [sniggers]. In the sense, in a country with a population of 1.3b, this is not THE ONLY YouTube Channel made for Gay Men, isn't it? You have to do what you feel like doing in your life. However, if you bring about small-small improvements in your life, your life will improve in (not small-small, but) significant ways. I wish all these things - that I realized quite late from within - were told to me by someone. Wish I had someone to guide me when I was in my 20s. That is the intention with which I've started talking about these things. That if your life can improve from a younger age itself, that would be a very good thing. This Channel's name is not, "Drunk and Crazy", or "My Life's Sad Story" [snickers], isn't it? So, if a few things badly impact your life, or take your life in a negative, undesired, or aberrant direction, then I've come here to point out those very things, isn't it? So, strong opinions will be kept.

What usually happens in sex is - You satisfy me. I satisfy you. However, there are two types in that as well. One is Connection-based Sex, in which satisfying each other is different. And the other is Connection-less Sex, in which satisfying each other is done just for the sake of it. And it's done.

Sex is not just about genitals. Sex is not just about the exchange of kisses or the exchange of fluids, isn't it? Sex is a total body experience. It is about the five senses. It is about who you are. Having Connection-based Sex is very important. This is sounding like TCP and UDP that was taught to us in Networking in Software Engineering. But making a Connection is very important - even if it may not be LOVE, having some kind of Connection - at least a Friendship-like Connection - is very important.

I want to state an example - which may sound a bit irrelevant - on how giving it time is important, however, if you do something daily... let me give that example:

This is about the year 1999-2000, when, in H.S.C. (XII class), I'd stood 8th in Pune Board. My Coaching Classes got my Photo printed in the newspapers. That was such a rousing moment, such an exciting, such a peak moment, like a dopamine-moment for us, everybody in the house. I call it 'do-ment'. DOpamine + moMENT = DO-MENT. So, that do-ment was very rare. That is an example, a milestone that I always talk about everywhere I go. Cut to - the times of Social Media, when I post my selfies (almost) DAILY on Instagram or WhatsApp, I, myself, sometimes, feel as to whether I'm overdoing these things. Am I showing myself to the world a bit too much? Even the audience that is watching me on WhatsApp and Instagram - over a period of time - I'm sure they must be thinking that this guy posts daily. So, its value, somewhere, diminishes, isn't it? It gets desensitized. Similarly, because already movies or some shows have desensitized sex and made it so casual that we think that if everyone is doing it, "why am I not?". "Let me do it too". So, we are doing that thing so frequently and casually that its speciality or value has reduced in our Minds. When its value reduces, its excitement, or the satisfaction or fulfilment that we receive out of it also reduces. What we're trying to look for through that act is what we tend to not get.

Here, in your Mind (i.e. Heart), like I always say, there's not a bucket, but a pipe. In the sense, if there were a bucket, then it would've got filled one day by having regular sex. However, since a pipe is hollow from both the ends, so, no matter how much you try to make yourself happy by having sex, it does not happen, especially Connection-less sex.

Some youngsters from today's generation simply doesn't know that if they see something unwanted on the Internet, it is not compulsory - they think it is - to go and write a bad comment on it. That is not necessary at all. You can always ignore, isn't it? Similarly, some guys think that minimum 3 people are required for having sex [snickers]. That is the very common belief these days, I think. Because people are having Group Sex so casually... and I have nothing against Group Sex, but you tell me - before having Group Sex - do ya'll sit down and have Group Discussions? Do you ask each others' Health History? How many times have others had sex with others? What have others' past diseases been? Do others' have any infections / boils and carbuncles on the body? Do you ask them to show you their backs or private areas? Do ya'll check that? No, ya'll don't. Because we are in a different MOOD at that point of time. We... meaning... that does not include me. So, people don't ask. They're in Goa. They're excited. 6-7 people get together and have Group Sex. I know that. I may not have seen it [chuckles], but I know. That has happened in front of me as well. That is not a very good thing to do, isn't it? Because, like I said in my Bangkok / Thailand's video as well - that when you kiss someone or do something to someone's body, the DNA of that person stays in your mouth for at least an hour. So, you never know what that person is carrying, not just physically, but also energetically, isn't it? (You never know) the type of person he is, and guys are ready to have sex with any kind of person. They don't even have a choice in that. So, everything has become a little extreme. I'm not here to change the world, but at an individual level, this is just a reminder to remember these things. That "if I want to explore something, I want to take maximum precautions." Like you can't actually have formal Group Discussions asking everybody to show their bodies first. That would make you the odd man out, isn't it? Even if ya'll do it, do it with the right intention, do it at the right time, do it with the right people as well, and have some common sense as well. Keep your 'eyes' open. Keep your mind open. Doing things with conscious awareness is very important.

So, before ending this talk, I just want to say that, because this talk was about Casual Sex, I'm not talking about Safe Sex and Unsafe Sex here. Right? It is very common sense that you should not do Unsafe Sex randomly. That is not the point here. I'm talking about Connection-based Sex and Connection-less Sex. Isn't there Purity inside each one of us? I'm not sitting here to judge others as Pure or Impure or This or That. Every individual knows as to whether the Purity or Innocence that one had as a teenager is still present or not, isn't it? You have to check it with yourself, and you will get the answer to that. You should never lose that Inner Purity, because once you lose it, then you lose the real essence of life. See, if I'm in "the mood", and I want to do something, and I do it, then there's no greatness in that, isn't it? However, if I'm in "the mood", but I ask myself to wait, and - may be - decide to make a Good Connection first and then do "it" with him - it doesn't have to be love, like I said, it can be just a small connection as well - then that is that Purity. That is that Inner Strength. Then "things" done in such a state are completely another level.

And I'm also saying all of these things, because another survey was conducted in 2016, in which it was found that MSEW (Men who have Sex Exclusively with Women) have Casual Sex after getting a bit older i.e. after 30 or so. However, MSM (Males who have Sex with Males) indulge in Casual Sex much sooner. At the same time, Gay Men feel the most distressed about not getting sex in their lives. But at the same time, Gay Men fear / perceive themselves as at risk of STI acquisition. So, on one hand they're tensed about not getting enough sex. On the other hand they're tensed about contracting STIs. That's because at least 50% of them were found to have unprotected sex.

So, I'm not really talking about physical things. I'm just saying that you should not waste yourself. Don't have Casual Sex or Random Sex just because you're Single or Lonely. Some people expect to reach Bengaluru while driving towards Mumbai [sniggers], in the sense, they have Casual Sex daily while writing blogs about how it is not possible to find Love in the Gay World.

And there are also movies, isn't it, in which it is shown that the guy was promiscuous at first, and then he changed after a girl entered his life. There's also a very big superstar in the Hindi film industry who has openly said that he was promiscuous until a woman arrived in his life. But these are one-off cases. These are one-off scenarios. These are exceptional cases. You have to focus on your own life. You can't just keep having Casual Sex in your young age and expect to go in the same direction as those people. You may not necessarily be successful in doing that. Your focus on your life, and where you're taking your life is very very important.

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PART-2

We all have (like) a SWITCH inside us. It's the Promiscuity switch. It's OFF for some people, and it's ON for some others. It has got nothing to do with being young or old. If it's ON, it's ON, and you feel justified.

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